When you truly heal your emotional Being and you no longer harbor resentment or pain, you will notice how disinterested you become to any form of gossip, personal negativity, or ill thoughts directed at you or others; you will feel a peace that is not shaken by the physical world nor the seemingly urgent demands it attempts to place upon you; you will perceive with a clarity that simply reveals, without projecting an emotional imprint; and perhaps most revelatory, you will realize that suffering is truly a choice and a state of mind, and it is, in contrast to all that society will try to make you believe, not the result of any actions by others nor of preexisting conditions beyond one’s control, but rather the result of perceiving Life as flawed in its expression.
Suffering is rooted in the belief that Life, or another, or oneself, should somehow be different than it is. As long as you see yourself as a victim, your loved ones as victims, even the Earth as a victim, you create dissonance between Life and your view of Life. You may choose to assist others, you may express your compassion through action, but it does not have to come from the need to end suffering; rather you can choose to be motivated by pure joy, inspired by potentiality, and fueled by limitless creativity.
There is Life, and then there is your belief about Life. If you want to be free of suffering, let go of the latter and embrace the former. It awaits you like a ripe fruit hanging from a tree!